How do I help my child manage the influence of others?

If a child feels a deep sense of self and belonging, they are less likely to be swayed by peers. Influences can be good or bad, depending on the values you have instilled in your child. Teaching children to focus on their own thoughts and ideas and promoting their self-esteem and critical thinking is invaluable in helping them resist the influence of those around them and the world.

The best way to teach this is through positive parenting by helping your child focus on their strengths. When correcting, frame things positively, for example: Please speak kindly; don't yell at your sister.

Other ways that will help:

Provide your child with quality 1:1 time and attention.

Actively listen to your child.

Show an interest in things that interest them.

Talk to them.

Teach them to problem-solve rather than solve problems for them.

Encourage their sense of belonging so that their adaption and self-esteem grow.

Care about their behaviours and look into the red flags they may show.

Teach them to take responsibility for their actions.

Let them know they have your unconditional support.

Teach them negotiation skills and develop their leadership qualities.

Teach them to be independent.

Gently reinforce values that you have instilled in them.

Be open to them sharing their experiences.

Avoid confronting them and trying to force distance from those you feel are a bad influence. It will likely only cause your child to become defensive and uncompromising.

Develop their self-esteem and self-confidence; this will increase their independence and help them steer away from the influence of others.

Enrol them in extracurricular activities to strengthen their values and

development.

Remember that any attention is better than none, so if you do not provide these things (positive influence and interactions), they will seek out connections from others, possibly the wrong friends.

When your child has strong self-esteem and a sense of belonging, they will be less likely to be swayed by peers.